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Pashta
Pashta
MaryMoon is a mother and grandmother,
living in Victoria, B.C. Canada. She
spent her youth as a social activist
and non-violence trainer, and teaching
music in elementary schools. Later,
she obtained a Honours degree in World
Religions (Carleton
University, Ottawa, Ontario, Canada),
followed by a lay seminary degree
(Unity Institute Spiritual
Education and Enrichment in Missouri)
as well as training in sexual
abuse and general counselling, and
working in a Sexual Abuse centre as
a volunteer counsellor (where
she also dealt with incest and attempted
murder cases).
Her
interest in a less institutionalized
form of dying/death started at age
7. With a life-long special
interest in the dying process, she
visited Elizabeth Kubler-Ross's Shanti
Nilaya center in the late 1970s; and
as part of her university degree,
wrote several essays on the effect
of modern death practices on our attitudes
towards life.
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Her
interest in a less institutionalized form
of dying/death started at age 7. With
a life-long special interest in the dying
process, she visited Elizabeth Kubler-Ross's
Shanti Nilaya center in the late 1970s;
and as part of her university degree, wrote
several essays on the effect of modern death
practices on our attitudes towards life.
In the 1980s, Pashta worked with Northern
Lights (Ontario)
a self-help community for people living
with HIV/AIDS sometimes caring for
friends and co-workers who were dying from
this disease, as well as officiating at
their requiems or memorials. During
the same time period, she was birth-coach
for 3 single mothers; and another later
on. One of these cases involved
the birth of a fetus who had died in utero:
and Pashta stayed with the mother for 36
hours afterwards, supporting the mother's
immediate grieving. As a singer/songwriter,
Pashta has long used vocal music as an alternate
therapy to support the dying or grieving
process.
Pashta's
background is primarily in pastoral care
in chaplaincies as visiting clergy
for hospital/hospice (10
yrs) and federal prison (20
yrs). In the late 1990s,
she joined the pastoral/spiritual care team
at the Royal Jubilee Hospital
(Victoria), and became its first
non-Christian member. During
one experience with a patient during this
service, she became aware of the power of
vocal music as a way to reach those who
were dying in a state of partial or full
dementia this experience left her
wondering how to aid people with dementia
and/or dying through music and other support
services.
She
was one of the co-founders of what eventualy
became the Victoria
Hospice Bedside Singers (originally
called Songs of Passage) and co-lead
the regular Bedside Singing program for
the Victoria Hospice unit, until she left
to create En-chanting
Beyond (Bedside
Singing for dying patients outside the Hospice
unit, birthing mothers, and people with
dementia).
Pashta
has been a member of the Vancouver
Island Monthly Meeting for the
Religious Society of Friends (Quakers)
since 1970. She has been responsible
for setting up Memorials for the Victoria
Friends Meeting for several years
as well as having served as clerk
for the Vancouver Island Monthly Meeting
Ministry & Council committee. Her
personal faith background is Nature-based
including serving as Wiccan priestess/clergy
for public temples and/or rituals, hospital
and hospice chaplaincy, and personalized
'rites of passage', as well as visiting
clergy for Pagans in federal prisons.
Pashta
graduated from The
Justice Institute as a mediator
in 2011. In the past, she has
also been a member of Communica
Dialogue and Resolution Services,
and volunteer coach for their Compass conflict
resolution program. She also has
a certificate in Psychological First Aid
from John Hopkins via Coursera
and in LGBTQ
elder support. From
her experience with Advance Care Planning
consulting, she is very aware of how important
it is to have one's final affairs in order
especially to ensure that the Death
Journeyer's choices will be honoured. Sometimes
however, mediation is required to avoid
unnecessary confusion, tension or guilt
feelings on the behalf of the family caring
for the Death Journeyer throughout the whole
of the pan-death process.
She
has taken training in various approaches
to Advance Care Planning. Her
focus is the emotional/spiritual and practical
side of dying; and less on the specifically
legal affairs (such as wills)
although she has basic training in
'Aging
and the Law'. She
has spent several years researching variations
of Advance Directives and Representation
Agreements throughout North America (including
the new legislation in BC). As
a result, she has developed comprehensive,
values-based Advance Directives and Representation
Agreements templates for both her Quaker
community and non-Quakers clients as well.
She attends a variety of EOL
and Advance-care Planning workshops, and
to participate in a number of organizations
that are addressing EOL/pan-death issues.
She was also a semi-active
member of Patients
As Partners/Patients Voice Network
in B.C. especially focused on 'end
of life' and dementia-care issues; as well
as a participant in the Island
Health Research '5 days in May'
program.
She
has trained with Jerrigrace Lyons from Final
Passages one of the grandmothers
of Home Funerals movement in U.S.A.
She was also a member of the Victoria Elder
Friendly Community Network, and
was the former chair of the Disability Advisory
Council for Dying
with Dignity. She
is also an original member of the End
of Life Professionals Collective.
Pashta
has over 40 years of experience with developing
and leading personalized ceremonies for
a variety of different rites of passage
often created entirely out what was
meaningful to the person, couple or family.
She also has trained as a trainer
for 'Guided Autobiographies' Wisdom
Legacies (personal life stories), and has
created legacy videos for clients. On
the other hand, some of these ceremonies
included working with clergy/celebrants
from other faiths to develop personalized
multi-faith/interfaith ceremonies. She
also recognizes the value of combining cultural
traditions with personal values, in order
to create uniquely meaningful ceremonies
especially as a Funeral Celebrant
(for funeral/memorial services),
and the various other potential pan-death
rites that might be included within the
support expected of a Pan-death Guide.
Her
focus is on:
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exploring
and honouring the values and choices
of the Death Journeyer and their families
both before facing death, with
comprehensive Advance Care Planning
and support for families to discuss
the choices made; and pan-death, in
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offering
support/guidance for a more 'hands on'
approach for the family if they
choose to care for their loved one after
death, as well as before it. Co-sponsored
by CINDEA, she offers a comprehensive
workshop on family-led home funerals
(post-death care, necessary
paperwork, and final disposition arrangements)
"By My Own Heart and
Hands" where participants
prepare for the practical elements of
doing a home funeral within their own
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and
while incorporating modern advances,
generally returning to the dual role
(birth and death)
of the pre-20th century midwife
supporting the Death Journeyer and their
family/friends, as they journey through
all aspects of a death in a pan-death
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Throughout
her lifetime, Pashta has carried this concern
evolving from studies in the issues around
death; through working with people with
HIV/AIDS or other terminal illness, and
end-stage dementia; to eventually becoming
a Practitioner of Death Midwifery with Journeying
Beyond.
She
is a co-founder of CINDEA,
as well as its executive director, web designer
and manager.
Please
contact Pashta at 250-383-4065 or email
us for further information on
what she offers as a Pan-death Guide
(see also Death
Midwifery) and/or EOL
consultant (see also Advance
Care Planning).
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The
logo starts with a starry night-sky background
night often symbolizing death; and stars,
hope for the future or the afterlife. In
the palms of the hands, rests a glowing
ball of light
the Death Journeyer's spirit before death.
The ball of light gradually
diffuses into the starry sky
representing the journey out of this world,
and into the starry heavens above. The
hands themselves (which are
Pashta's hands) represent the hands
of the pan-death guide, as well as those
of the Death Journeyer's family and friends
all who are physically and/or prayerfully
supporting a gentle journey in this final
passage. They are cupped in
a cradling position
paralleling the hand-position of a birth
midwife as they support the passage of a
child into this world
to once again 'cradle' this beloved life-spirit
as it prepares to leave this world.
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