My Own Heart and Hand
'in person' on the Pacific West Coast
(based in Vancouver Island,
or by Skype (anywhere)
us for dates
of further workshops or if you wish to
organize one for your area
Please note that the 1 1/2 days workshops
are NOT full Death Midwifery
or Home Funeral Guide training courses
(which are much more extensive),
and only cover the basics of a home funeral.
By My Own Heart and Hand
workshops are primarily intended for families
who are considering a home funeral in
the future; and want to be clear on the
timeline (what to do when),
required paperwork (in
that province/territory), and the
physical deathcare (washing,
dressing, moving and cooling the body). They
are also used for Death Doulas and Funeral
Celebrants who wish to add 'home funerals'
to their 'toolbox'.
workshop requires a minimum of 7 participants,
with a maximum of 12-14 in order
to create the kind of intimate environment
that most home funerals would actually
have. They were
usually hosted in a private home, so that
it is easier for the participants to envision
themselves doing a home funeral with their
own loved ones, in their own home. However,
post-pandemic, they are now held on Zoom.
All are welcome.
workshop starts with a Friday evening,
watching a 'home funerals' related film
and discussing it. This
allows for the participants to centred
into the subject, starting raising their
personal feelings about home funerals
(including their questions and concerns),
and build an initial degree of intimacy
and safety with the other participants.
starts with further ideas, questions and
concerns that have arisen over the night-morning.
The rest of that day
focuses on the general timeline, and the
required paperwork. Sunday
(1-5 pm) focuses on the physical deathcare.
Then there is a short
time at the end to talk about initial
ritualization of the home funeral process,
and further training or organizing: some
training groups choose to remain connected
by online social media and/or continue
to share resources/etc.
groups often stay connected
each other with ideas and local resources,
and even sometimes organizing pan-death
Pashta for further information including
potential dates of planned By
My Own Heart and Hand workshops,
or to request a workshop in your area,
or to schedule a Skype version of the
of the workshop came from the following
Take her not from me.
Let it be this hand
Who wipes the folds of her flesh
A final encore to fading days.
With each tender stroke,
May her seasoned soul unwind its threads
from this mortal coil.
With each grieving caress,
May her enduring love weave more tightly
into the whole of my being.
not from me,
Until the last essence of who she was
is truly gone,
And I have captured only what she left
In this hand and heart.